The Usual Question

The society as usual will never stop cornering people who defies their conventions, notably to all singles ( that's me and the rest ). They will never stop asking the newly married couple - when their going to get the first kid, parents asking and comparing their child's grade.

Anyway the 

The vicious circle. Seriously i have run out of ideas of answering this, its much better for me keep quiet and shrug my shoulders than engaging them - worst, making then lengthen the subject matter. Of coz - the married ones, i have nothing against them - except good will wishes, hoping they will continue to love each other till the world's end.

I got this question in one of my lectures

Sir, why you are still single? Are you happy being single?

and finally have some time to reflect upon it. 

Relationships happens, break-up happens, falling in love happens - but remember falling OUT of LOVE happens too. Be prepared to have your heart broken unto pieces but mind you falling in LOVE is a wonderful experience too. After all these years observing, attending weddings and funerals, listening to divorcees- i found out its much better finding solid reasons of loving oneself first.
 
commit to oneself before you can commit to another.  
( as you dont know what you in for in the long run - who knows your partner stabs you in the middle of the night )

Yes it may sound selfish - but let me elaborate, having time for yourself able to make you see/realize what really makes you happy, contented and finally able to see what is missing - if you feel that way. Again, its not the partner will fill it, but yourself.

Common sense rules - you need to have extra something then only you can donate, give or share. 
Most of the time, people expect the other to fill it for them, but its completely wrong. When you have abundance of something - then only you share.

imagine you are hungry, have nothing to eat and you want to give to others. Give me a break. Fill your stomach first and then find a food supply for others. 

Im fortunate to be in and out from relationships and im grateful that it shaped me today. Nobody is perfect, we cant point fingers to an individual when it comes to relationship. I know i cant explain this to everybody, but seriously im cool being single coz i can do anything what i want and most importantly im happy.

Believe me - nobody is perfect, but again, why on earth we choose to see the bad stuffs, just see the good ones. 

Wahahahahahahah

with the boys during the flood missions

with the new boys in shelter missions

with naughty malnourished boys

jungle boys
with a native boy
with plastic boys
with a yellow Heisenberg
with the blue boys
with H3R0 boys

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